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Facing My Fears: A Silent Prayer on Christmas Day

Today I am scared.

Scared that I didn’t do enough. Afraid that I haven’t made the best choices. Scared that I am letting people down. Scared that I said the wrong things or when needed said nothing at all.

Sometimes fear is so strong that I feel paralyzed, unable to move, unable to speak. So, I just sit and breathe. I try telling myself that the feeling will pass, and it will, but it is little consolation because I know it will be back.

I have lived my life fighting fear. Fear of physical harm. Fear of pissing people off. Fear of missing out. Fear of failing, publicly. Fear of what people think of me, particularly my family and friends.

Some days, like today, I feel really vulnerable. I want to think of others first today, especially today — on Christ’s birthday. “What would Jesus do?”, I ask. The problem is that thinking of one person may mean offending someone else, someone I love and care about. What would Jesus do?

God help me to face my fears with great courage and boldness, today and everyday. Help me to put your kindness and love first. Help me to be the best example for the people I love the most.

Written on Christmas morning 2014.


Written by Shara

December 25, 2014 at 10:33 am

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This was our first Halloween in California. The kids had a scream! Ha! We had fun trick or treating in a friend’s neighborhood where some of the houses went all-in — graveyards on the lawn, smoke filled passages to the front door, Thriller being cranked from outdoor speakers and lots of candy for miles around.

The highlight of the night was our little ninja friend who proclaimed he couldn’t wait to see a zombie so he could,  “punch him in the face.” It sounds a little violent, but actually it was cute. He wanted to protect us all… that is until the kids were frightened by an older kid vampire, who answered the door abruptly after they had just mustered up enough nerve to walk through a maze of scary props to the front door. Then, of course, everyone came running back screaming — ninja and all!

Hope you had a wonderful Halloween.

Written by Shara

November 1, 2014 at 1:06 am

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Merry Christmas!

Christmas TreeTomorrow, my family will celebrate Christmas.

My kids will wake up and run downstairs to see what gifts they have from mom, dad and most importantly — Santa!

Through all of the scattered wrapping paper and squeals of excitement (and perhaps moans of disappointment too, lol), my heart will delight in the time we share as a family.

While their main focus may be on the gifts under the tree, I continue to remind my kids of the greatest gift of all — Jesus. But, my discussions about Jesus, God and faith, in general, center around love.

So, we talk about the ways we have shared God’s love with others this holiday season, including food and toy donations to the local animal shelter, gifts for the adopt-a-family with my son’s scout troop, sharing our toys with each other and friends who visit, and for my three year old a biggie — “using your words and not hitting or pushing.”

Some say Christians shouldn’t teach their kids to believe in Santa because Santa isn’t in the Bible. Since I haven’t read the good book from cover to cover, then I’ll have to take their word for it. However, does every saint or saintly figure have to be mentioned in the Bible in order to offer something good and positive to the world?

I guess that’s up to each parent and each family to determine.

I love that both of my children believe in Santa… and not just because of the naughty/nice list leverage. Santa extends the gift of God’s love by reinforcing Christ’s teachings of giving and kindness– in a form that crosses the boundaries of race, religion, culture, ethnicity, geography and more.

But beyond all of that, it’s just plain old fun.

Merry Christmas everyone!

Written by Shara

December 24, 2012 at 7:34 pm