The Roads We Travel

A few days in a life journey.

Archive for April 2013

Ms. Understood

Mistaken. Misconstrued. Misunderstood. 

Since my last post, I have been thinking about how often people are misunderstood. Beyond that, how often those misunderstandings go unchecked.

After thinking about it for a while now, I’m starting to care less.

For a long time, and I’m not sure how it started, but I have been ever so cautious about saying the “right” things, never wanting to be misunderstood. I’m not talking about political correctness or even using good manners, but doing things like sending hundred-word emails for something that can be summarized in ten.

I dread being misunderstood or misconstrued. I want people to understand what I’m saying, even if they disagree. Always understood. Always heard. Validated. But, I’ve gone too far and it’s time to pull this train back into the station.

I’m not saying to lose the pleasantries or even common decency that any human being should display, but over-communicating is overrated. It bothers me to think about how much time I’ve wasted just trying to come up with the exact right words to convey my thoughts or sentiments to someone who has already had the conversation in his/her head and decided what I meant without checking-in.

Time wasted. Not getting it back.

In relationships, you can only do your part — stay true to your heart. Follow the path that God has intended for your life’s journey. If others want to walk with you and be blessed to be a part of that journey, then they will check-in when their minds tell them to think the worst of something you’ve said or done.

Knowing your heart and knowing you, those who were meant to be a part of your life’s journey will check-in. Others will pull away, fall away, run away or go their way. That used to be my worst fear and now I realize that it’s just a part of the cycle of life.

Last Sunday, I spent some time watching Super Soul Sunday on OWN and it was definitely food for my soul. From Brené Brown, Pastor Joel Osteen and Pastor Rick Warren to inspiring words from Iyanla Vanzant and Dr. Maya Angelou. Yes, it was exactly what my soul needed. Reminders that, “What you feed will grow.” Stay positive and enjoy the journey. Don’t waste time comparing yourself with others because as Pastor Joel says, “Nobody can beat you at being you!”

A friend’s Facebook post reminded me of a song that I love: It Is Well With My Soul. Indeed, it is.

I hope things have been well for you. What’s inspired you this week?


Written by Shara

April 6, 2013 at 3:55 pm