The Roads We Travel

A few days in a life journey.

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Confrontation Is Still Hard for Me

Today was a tough day.

I had to talk with a close friend about something that was weighing on my heart and mind for a long time. I kept putting off the conversation, convincing myself that the issue would go away or eventually it would seem less important. Well, that’s not the case, in fact it got worse.

First of all, I hate confrontation — I mean I REALLY hate it. Years ago, my boss and mentor brought this to my attention and challenged me to grow in this area. He noticed that I would never say if I had a problem with something, I would just wait until things got intolerable and then lash out. He told me that I should speak up sooner when there is a problem and I agree, but old habits die hard. I’m better now at confronting issues in my life, and people, but it doesn’t make me hate it any less.

I usually have to force myself to discuss a problem with a close friend or relative, and today was no exception. In my mind, it goes something like this, “1, 2, 3, SAY IT!” Like giving myself a mental nudge. I knew that I was going to say it today, but I also knew that my perspective on the issue might not be well received. I was right.

At the end of the day, I believe if you are close friends, then you should be able to have difficult conversations and in fact, sometimes, those tough conversations can bring you closer. Sometimes you lose a friend and that’s happened to me before too. I’m hoping for the former, but I have to say folks it was really hard, tears were shed and voices were raised.

We parted with words of love, but I feel the hurt and hope that we can get to a place of resolution really soon. Pray for me and my friend.


Written by Shara

March 9, 2013 at 11:18 pm